These are a few examples of contracts I have used in the past. When I made the contracts, I took parts of different pre existing contracts. I then used what worked for the current situation. I have never seen a general purpose contract that is applicable to all situations, and I rather doubt that such a contract exists. With that in mind, I would encourage you to write your own. Your the only one that fully knows your situation, and probably the only one that can address all of your needs.

Feel free to look at the contracts I have listed below. Pick and choose the parts that work for you. Then make your own! Just remember when making your contract, nothing should be taken for granted. Something that seems small and insignificant right now might cause a serious misunderstanding down the road. A contract is used to state concerns, responsibility, authority, and limits. You owe it to your partner and yourself to make sure these are clearly defined from the word go.

Contract # 1       Contract # 2       Contract # 3

Example Contract #1

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The following is a contact to define the rules, responsibilities, duties, needs and desires of the undersigned DOM and sub in a D/s relationship.


For ease of identification the undersigned will be known as the "DOM". 

Signature:_____________________________ Date:____________ 


For ease of identification the undersigned will be known as the "sub". 

Signature:_____________________________ Date:____________ 


Content by section: 

1. Rights 

2. Authority 

3. Rules 

4. Safety 

5. Limitations 

6. Safe Word 

7. Duties and Responsibilities 

8. Public Behavior 

9. Offenses 

10. Punishment 

11. Rewards 

12. Unforeseen Circumstances 

13. 3rd Parties 


Section 1. RIGHTS 

The DOM has the following rights by virtue of position. 

The DOM has the right to ask any question of the sub and has the right to expect the sub to answer truthfully and completely, to the best of the sub's knowledge. If the DOM suspects that the sub is not disclosing the best answer to the sub's knowledge, the DOM may interrogate the sub to acquire the best answer to the sub's knowledge, within the boundaries of this contract.

The DOM has the right to be treated with love, and respect at all times (see section 7. Duties and Responsibilities). The DOM also has the right to be informed at all times of anything that the sub needs, or desires. If the sub does not inform the DOM of such then the DOM is not responsible for any repercussions.

The DOM has the right to punish the sub for any violation of the rules (see section 3. Rules) stated herein.

The DOM has the right to accept other subs, but must consider the sub's emotional response to such actions and act accordingly. Under no circumstance should the DOM allow such actions to unbalance the sub emotionally, or allow such actions to result in ignoring the sub.

The DOM has the right to give the sub to other DOMs, provided the rules of this contract are upheld (see section 3. Rules). In such a situation, the DOM will inform the new DOM of the provisions stated herein, and any breach by the new DOM will be considered a breach by the abovesigned DOM as well, subject to all rules stated in this contract.


The sub has the following rights by virtue of position. 

The sub has the right to be treated with love and kindness at all times with the exception of kindness when deemed appropriate by DOM.

The sub has right to receive a "free period" when needed and deemed appropriate by the DOM(see section 6. Safeword).

The sub has the right to care for children and pets, hold job or other public activities without repercussion or interference from the DOM (to include when in presence of company).

The sub has the right to be able to use "SAFEWORD" at anytime this contract is violated. If "SAFEWORD" is used for any reason more then once a month the sub has the right to terminate this contract immediately (see section 12. Unforeseen Circumstances).


Section 2. Authority 

The DOM has the following authority by virtue of position. 

The DOM has complete authority over sub except under special circumstances listed herein (see section 3. Rules).

The sub has no authority over DOM. 


Section 3. Rules 

1) Unless otherwise stated sub will refer to DOM as "Sir or Master". 

2) Sub will do as told by DOM immediately with no questions asked, unless honestly did not hear.

3) Sub will carry out all duties and responsibilities (see section 7. Duties and responsibilities).

4) Sub will strive to please and serve DOM to best of sub's ability. 

5) Sub will be honest to DOM at all times. 

6) Sub will dress in any manner and maintain any image the DOM wishes. 

7) Dom will consult with sub before allowing another DOM to utilize the sub. 

8) DOM will ensure sub's well being and training are maintained at all times. 

9) DOM will not cause any physical or mental damage that requires outside attention. 

10) Sub will not pursue any relationships at any time without expressed permission from DOM.


Section 4. Safety 

Overall Safety will be a consideration at all times. It will be observed by DOM and sub alike. This includes but is not limited to insuring neither party will receive any physical or mental damage requiring outside attention.


Section 5. Limitations 

All limitations set by the DOM and sub are to be considered rules. They may only be overstepped on the condition that the DOM and sub both agree to it.


The following are the limits set by the DOM. 

1) Sub will not use guilt against DOM. 

2) Sub will not hold a grudge for punishment. 

3) Sub will not allow a relationship with another DOM to interfere with training. 


The following are the limits set by the sub. 

1) DOM will not take on any subs without subs knowledge. 

2) DOM will not take resentment personally. 

3) DOM will not force an issue out of sub till sub can answer in an articulate manner (sub will not use this as a cop-out).

4) Nothing anal what so ever. 

5) No group sex larger then 3 persons. 

6) Sub may not be handed to a 3rd DOM by a secondary DOM. 


Section 6. Safeword 

A Safeword will usable at all times and will be known by both DOM and sub. If Safeword is uttered all actions will stop immediately regardless of who utilizes it. Failure to do so is grounds for termination of this contract and will not be tolerated. If it is not possible to speak then a safesign will be used. (i.e. Snapping fingers, stomping feet, etc.)

If deemed necessary by the DOM a "Free Period" can be given to the sub. During a free period the sub may speak to the DOM as an equal to resolve problems or fears. A free period may be given by the DOM under special circumstances if DOM deems it appropriate.

The Safeword is:_____________________________ 

The safesign is:_____________________________ 


Section 7. Duties and Responsibilities 


The DOM has the following duties and responsibilities. 

1) To ensure training of sub. 

2) Guide sub to limits and help make sub a better person. 

3) Protection of the sub. 

4) Punish and inform sub when punishment is deserved and why. 

5) To enforce sub duties and responsibilities. 


The sub has the following duties and responsibilities. 

1) To keep and maintain the home. 

    a) Laundry: 

    b) Dishes: 

    c) Vacuum: 

    e) Bathroom: 

    f) Bedrooms: 

    g) Kitchen: 

    h) Dusting: 

    i) Bag trash: 

2) Care for animals. 

    a) Feed: 

    b) Take out: 

    c) Clean Cat pan: 

    d) Bathe & Dip: 

3) Meals made at appropriate time. 

4) DOMS Uniforms 

5) Drink and greeting when DOM returns home from work. 

6) Showered and scented prior to bed each night. 

7) Maintenance of training aides 


Section 8. Public Behavior 

The rules governing public behavior apply to DOM and sub both. They will be followed at all times. The common sense rule applies.

1) Behavior in public will be proper and acceptable by societies standards. 

2) Behavior will not cause embarrassment, discomfort, or shame to either the DOM or the sub.

3) Public behavior will apply while in public, while entertaining guests, and while with family.

4) If a breach in discipline or an offense is committed during Public then the DOM has the right to punish sub later for offenses committed (i.e. Disrespect ).


Section 9. Offenses 

The following will be a list of offenses as stated by both DOM and sub. 

It may include wrong doings, pet peeves and generally annoying habits the DOM or sub may find distasteful.


The DOMs dislikes. 

1) sub will change toilet paper when needed. 

2) sub will refrain from being lax in here mannerism with soldiers. 


The subs dislikes. 

1) DOM will inform sub of needs for work(i.e.: uniform type) at least 2-3 hours before sub goes to bed.

2) DOM will help sub if deemed needed when sub asks not 2 hours later. 

3) DOM will bathe after work prior to bed. 

4) DOM will sit at a family dinner for benefit of family. Unless circumstances make unable.

5) DOM will be more decisive upon being asked what DOM wants for a meal.


Infractions of the offenses list will result in appropriate punishment as deemed necessary by the DOM. The sub has absolutely no right whatsoever to administer punishment of any kind. The sub may respectfully request a free period to discuss any infractions of the fore mentioned offenses to find a mutually agreeable solution.


Section 9. Punishment 

Punishment will be used at any time DOM sees fit. Punishment will come in any form, as long as it doesn't do any of the following.

1) Punishment will not cause physical or mental damage that requires outside attention.

2) Punishment will not result in permanent scarring or any other permanent injury.

3) Punishment will not result in loss of blood or loss of hair. 

4) Punishment will not interfere with subs job, in or out of home, family or the entertaining of guests.

5) Punishment will not be inflicted by another DOM unless discussed with sub first. 


Punishment may entail the following at the DOMs discretion.

1) Absolutely anything not forbidden herein. 


Section 10. Rewards 

The sub shall receive rewards at the DOMs digression. Rewards may include but are not limited to the following.

1) Attention i.e.: kind words, petting, praise, etc. 

2) Liberties i.e.: going out, parties, free time etc. 

3) Anything not already covered that the DOM feels is a suitable reward at time. 


Section 11. Unforeseen Circumstances 

This section deals with circumstances that may or may not arise. 


1) Pregnancy. 

    a) If sub becomes pregnant training will be modified for physical and mental limitations during this time.

2) Heavy work load i.e.: overtime, field duty etc. 

    a) If the DOM or sub has an increased work load allowances will be made in training to compensate for such.

3) Injury or Sickness 

    a) If either DOM or sub is injured or sick, this will be taken account in training. 

4) Separation i.e.: Deployment, Going home for visit,etc. 

    a) If the DOM and sub, for any reason must be separated for an extended period of time rules and procedures will be set up prior to separation.


Section 12. 3rd Parties 

This section deals with question of another party entering DOM and sub relationship. For ease of explanation this will only refer to Real Time. It is assumed that any relations in cyber will not affect R/t relationship.

A formal introduction of a third person into this relationship will be considered and agreed to by both DOM and sub.


Another Dom. 

If another Dom is introduced into the relationship then said Dom will read and to obey in it’s entirety this contract. If the Dom breaches contract in any way, the DOM herein signed above,will be held responsible.


Another sub. 

If another sub is introduced into the relationship then said sub will read and to obey in it’s entirety this contract. If the sub breaches contract in any way, the sub herein signed above,will be held responsible.



Section 13. The Contract 

This contract is binding and will be considered as such. Any changes to be made to this contract at a later date will be agreed on by both DOM and sub. A new draft of the contract will be drawn up and the old contract will be destroyed at that time.

By signing below both DOM and sub agree that they have read and understood this contract in it’s entirety. They also agree that this contract is binding and will be adhered to until such time as said contract is dissolved.


The undersigned is known as the "DOM". 

Signature:_____________________________ Date:____________ 


The undersigned is known as the "sub". 

Signature:_____________________________ Date:____________ 


By signing below either a DOM and sub, being brought into the relationship as a third party agree that they have read and understood this contract in it’s entirety. They also agree that this contract is binding and will be adhered to until such time as said contract is dissolved.


The undersigned is known as the 3rd party, and "DOM". 

Signature:_____________________________ Date:____________ 


The undersigned is known as the 3rd party, and "sub". 

Signature:_____________________________ Date:____________ 

Example Contract #2

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This contract provides a framework for consensual BDSM play. By defining the boundaries of what is and is not to be included in the couples sex play, overall satisfaction of both partners will be increased. Additional provisions under this contract may be added in the Contract Addendum. Two additional forms are used in conjunction with this contract: The Rules, and The List as described below.


General Agreement 

Each partner will complete the rules form. In it they will describe all their partner's annoying or bothersome behaviors referred to as offenses - (Example: forgetting to buy toilet paper). Each of these offenses has a prescribed amount of punishment to be administered to the offender by the offended during a periodic (weekly) play session. The partners must agree to hold one or two sessions in each play cycle. In a single session only one partner assumes the dominant role and dispenses punishment as prescribed by the itemized list. A double session is split with roles reversed at an agreed upon time or point in the play.


Other considerations 

The session must be held at least once a week or every ______________. A refusal to submit at the appointed time will result in an additional six strokes for the refusor. If a dispute arises over an offense, it will be negotiated between the couple or an arbitrator that may be appointed in the Addendum.


The Rules 

The attachment 'The Rules' is a list of offenses and the agreed upon punishment for each offense. Each offense will have a minimum and maximum number of strokes and a force level associated with it. The implement used and the actual number of strokes delivered in the punishment is at the discretion of the spanker. Both partners will write and maintain their own Rules list that clearly specifies what is expected of the other partner. An items on the list must be accepted by the other partner before it becomes active. Acceptance is indicated by initialing and dating the item.


The List (The Offenses & Punishment List) 

As each infraction of the Rules occurs, an entry is made on this form by the owner of the rule. The form may be used in formal review 'in the office' to set up the session or during the session as each item is meted out.


The undersigned agree to abide by all the above specified terms for a period of ____________.







THE ADDENDUM (to be added later) 







Example Contract #3

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Master & sub


Of my own free will and out of a desire to express my devotion to my master, i offer myself in submission to my Master for the period beginning on __________ and ending at noon on_____________.

Although i consider myself to be sub full-time to Master, during the time period expressed above, I will devote myself completely and totally to the pleasure and desires of my Master, without hesitation.


The General Rules 

The sub agrees to obey her Master in all respects. her mind, body, heart and time belong to  sub accepts the responsibility of using her Safeword when necessary, and trusts implicitly in her Master to respect the use of that Safeword. If a condition arises in which the slave needs to use the Safeword or gesture, her Master will assess the situation, and determine an appropriate course of action.

The sub shall keep her body available for the use of her Master at all times. In addition, the sub agrees that her Master possesses the right to determine whether others can use her body and what use they may put it to. The Master will discuss all such instances in advance with the sub, to be certain that such play with others will not violate any established limits. The sub shall demonstrate her acceptance of her role of service and availability at all times while at home and at other times and places specified by her Master. The sub acknowledges that her Master may use her body or mind in any manner He wishes within the parameters of safety.

The sub will answer any questions put to her honestly and directly, and will volunteer any information her Master should know about her physical or emotional condition. While her Master expects His sub to speak honestly and forth rightly about anything that bothers her, she is not to interpret that as permission to whine or complain. She will phrase her concerns politely and respectfully, and then gracefully accept her Master's judgment in these matters without further complaint.

The sub will always speak of her Master in terms of respect. She will address him at all times as either "Master" or "Sir" (see Public Rules of Conduct).

The Master may give the sub "free periods" in His presence during which the sub may express herself openly and freely. There will be no punishments applied during "free periods." It is understood, however, that the sub will continue to address her Master with respect at all times and that deviations from the rule are subject to punishment at a later time.

The sub agrees that punishment may be assessed for any infraction of the letter or spirit of the contract, and will accept the correction gratefully. The form and extent of the punishment shall be at the Master's discretion, and the Master shall make it clear to the sub that She is being punished when punishment occurs. The Master shall endeavor not inflict physical harm upon the sub that might require the attention of anyone outside the relationship. Master and sub agree that in extremes either may activate a free period by using the Safeword The free period will continue until both parties agree that the problem(s) concerned are resolved.

The sub is permitted to engage in any and all activities not actively forbidden by the contract or by later edict of the Master. All rights and privileges not otherwise noted in this contract belong to the Master, and He may exercise them as He chooses.


Private Rules of Conduct 

On days when her Master is at work, the sub will greet Him wearing her collar and wrist restraints. On days when the Master is home, the slave will wear whatever is deemed appropriate by her Master. When in the same room as her Master, the sub will ask permission before leaving the room, explain where She is going, and why. When speaking to her Master or being spoken to by Him, the sub will assume a demeanor of alert attention and will meet her Master's eyes directly, unless instructed to do otherwise.


Public Rules of Conduct 

The sub will conduct herself at all times in such a manner as to not call attention to Master and sub. She will call her Master by His name only if the use of "Master" is inappropriate. The sub will defer to her Master in public. The sub may dress herself, but must seek approval of any clothing She wishes to wear in public. Work Rules of Conduct

No part of the agreement is intended to interfere with the sub's career. The Master wishes the sub to work hard and honestly, in general to conduct herself in a manner calculated to bring honor and respect to them both. During periods of work, the sub is permitted to schedule appointments, to dress in a manner appropriate to work, and to leave the house when necessary. During periods of work, the sub may answer the telephone and discuss business without the expressed permission of her Master. With my signature below, I agree to accept and obey all preceding rules as well as any rules my Master may choose to issue at a later date.



The following word is to be used as a Safeword only to halt all further activity_________________.



________________________________ sub __________________ date 


I accept My sub's desire to serve Me more fully, and take responsibility for her training, discipline and protection.


_______________________________ Master _________________ date 


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