are a few examples of contracts I have used in the past. When
I made the contracts, I took parts of different pre existing contracts.
I then used what worked for the current situation. I have never
seen a general purpose contract that is applicable to all situations,
and I rather doubt that such a contract exists. With that in mind,
I would encourage you to write your own. Your the only one that
fully knows your situation, and probably the only one that can
address all of your needs.
free to look at the contracts I have listed below. Pick and
choose the parts that work for you. Then make your own! Just
remember when making your contract, nothing should be taken
for granted. Something that seems small and insignificant right
now might cause a serious misunderstanding down the road. A
contract is used to state concerns, responsibility, authority,
and limits. You owe it to your partner and yourself to make
sure these are clearly defined from the word go.
Contract # 2
Contract # 3
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following is a contact to define the rules, responsibilities,
duties, needs and desires of the undersigned DOM and sub in
a D/s relationship.
ease of identification the undersigned will be known as the
ease of identification the undersigned will be known as the
Duties and Responsibilities
DOM has the following rights by virtue of position.
DOM has the right to ask any question of the sub and has the
right to expect the sub to answer truthfully and completely,
to the best of the sub's knowledge. If the DOM suspects that
the sub is not disclosing the best answer to the sub's knowledge,
the DOM may interrogate the sub to acquire the best answer to
the sub's knowledge, within the boundaries of this contract.
DOM has the right to be treated with love, and respect at all
times (see section 7. Duties and Responsibilities). The DOM
also has the right to be informed at all times of anything that
the sub needs, or desires. If the sub does not inform the DOM
of such then the DOM is not responsible for any repercussions.
DOM has the right to punish the sub for any violation of the
rules (see section 3. Rules) stated herein.
DOM has the right to accept other subs, but must consider the
sub's emotional response to such actions and act accordingly.
Under no circumstance should the DOM allow such actions to unbalance
the sub emotionally, or allow such actions to result in ignoring
DOM has the right to give the sub to other DOMs, provided the
rules of this contract are upheld (see section 3. Rules). In
such a situation, the DOM will inform the new DOM of the provisions
stated herein, and any breach by the new DOM will be considered
a breach by the abovesigned DOM as well, subject to all rules
stated in this contract.
sub has the following rights by virtue of position.
sub has the right to be treated with love and kindness at all
times with the exception of kindness when deemed appropriate
sub has right to receive a "free period" when needed and deemed
appropriate by the DOM(see section 6. Safeword).
sub has the right to care for children and pets, hold job or
other public activities without repercussion or interference
from the DOM (to include when in presence of company).
sub has the right to be able to use "SAFEWORD" at anytime this
contract is violated. If "SAFEWORD" is used for any reason more
then once a month the sub has the right to terminate this contract
immediately (see section 12. Unforeseen Circumstances).
DOM has the following authority by virtue of position.
DOM has complete authority over sub except under special circumstances
listed herein (see section 3. Rules).
sub has no authority over DOM.
Unless otherwise stated sub will refer to DOM as "Sir or Master".
Sub will do as told by DOM immediately with no questions asked,
unless honestly did not hear.
Sub will carry out all duties and responsibilities (see section
7. Duties and responsibilities).
Sub will strive to please and serve DOM to best of sub's ability.
Sub will be honest to DOM at all times.
Sub will dress in any manner and maintain any image the DOM
Dom will consult with sub before allowing another DOM to utilize
DOM will ensure sub's well being and training are maintained
at all times.
DOM will not cause any physical or mental damage that requires
Sub will not pursue any relationships at any time without expressed permission
Safety will be a consideration at all times. It will be observed
by DOM and sub alike. This includes but is not limited to insuring
neither party will receive any physical or mental damage requiring
limitations set by the DOM and sub are to be considered rules.
They may only be overstepped on the condition that the DOM and
sub both agree to it.
following are the limits set by the DOM.
Sub will not use guilt against DOM.
Sub will not hold a grudge for punishment.
Sub will not allow a relationship with another DOM to interfere
following are the limits set by the sub.
DOM will not take on any subs without subs knowledge.
DOM will not take resentment personally.
DOM will not force an issue out of sub till sub can answer in
an articulate manner (sub will not use this as a cop-out).
Nothing anal what so ever.
No group sex larger then 3 persons.
Sub may not be handed to a 3rd DOM by a secondary DOM.
Safeword will usable at all times and will be known by both
DOM and sub. If Safeword is uttered all actions will stop immediately
regardless of who utilizes it. Failure to do so is grounds for
termination of this contract and will not be tolerated. If it
is not possible to speak then a safesign will be used. (i.e.
Snapping fingers, stomping feet, etc.)
deemed necessary by the DOM a "Free Period" can be given to
the sub. During a free period the sub may speak to the DOM as
an equal to resolve problems or fears. A free period may be
given by the DOM under special circumstances if DOM deems it
7. Duties and Responsibilities
DOM has the following duties and responsibilities.
To ensure training of sub.
Guide sub to limits and help make sub a better person.
Protection of the sub.
Punish and inform sub when punishment is deserved and why.
To enforce sub duties and responsibilities.
sub has the following duties and responsibilities.
To keep and maintain the home.
i) Bag trash:
Care for animals.
b) Take out:
c) Clean Cat pan:
d) Bathe & Dip:
Meals made at appropriate time.
Drink and greeting when DOM returns home from work.
Showered and scented prior to bed each night.
Maintenance of training aides
8. Public Behavior
rules governing public behavior apply to DOM and sub both. They
will be followed at all times. The common sense rule applies.
Behavior in public will be proper and acceptable by societies
Behavior will not cause embarrassment, discomfort, or shame
to either the DOM or the sub.
Public behavior will apply while in public, while entertaining
guests, and while with family.
If a breach in discipline or an offense is committed during
Public then the DOM has the right to punish sub later for offenses
committed (i.e. Disrespect ).
following will be a list of offenses as stated by both DOM and
may include wrong doings, pet peeves and generally annoying
habits the DOM or sub may find distasteful.
sub will change toilet paper when needed.
sub will refrain from being lax in here mannerism with soldiers.
DOM will inform sub of needs for work(i.e.: uniform type) at
least 2-3 hours before sub goes to bed.
DOM will help sub if deemed needed when sub asks not 2 hours
DOM will bathe after work prior to bed.
DOM will sit at a family dinner for benefit of family. Unless
circumstances make unable.
DOM will be more decisive upon being asked what DOM wants for
of the offenses list will result in appropriate punishment as
deemed necessary by the DOM. The sub has absolutely no right
whatsoever to administer punishment of any kind. The sub may
respectfully request a free period to discuss any infractions
of the fore mentioned offenses to find a mutually agreeable
will be used at any time DOM sees fit. Punishment will come
in any form, as long as it doesn't do any of the following.
Punishment will not cause physical or mental damage that requires
Punishment will not result in permanent scarring or any other
Punishment will not result in loss of blood or loss of hair.
Punishment will not interfere with subs job, in or out of home,
family or the entertaining of guests.
Punishment will not be inflicted by another DOM unless discussed
with sub first.
may entail the following at the DOMs discretion.
Absolutely anything not forbidden herein.
sub shall receive rewards at the DOMs digression. Rewards may
include but are not limited to the following.
Attention i.e.: kind words, petting, praise, etc.
Liberties i.e.: going out, parties, free time etc.
Anything not already covered that the DOM feels is a suitable
reward at time.
11. Unforeseen Circumstances
section deals with circumstances that may or may not arise.
a) If sub becomes pregnant training will be modified for physical
and mental limitations during this time.
Heavy work load i.e.: overtime, field duty etc.
a) If the DOM or sub has an increased work load allowances will
be made in training to compensate for such.
Injury or Sickness
a) If either DOM or sub is injured or sick, this will be taken
account in training.
Separation i.e.: Deployment, Going home for visit,etc.
a) If the DOM and sub, for any reason must be separated for
an extended period of time rules and procedures will be set
up prior to separation.
12. 3rd Parties
section deals with question of another party entering DOM and
sub relationship. For ease of explanation this will only refer
to Real Time. It is assumed that any relations in cyber will
not affect R/t relationship.
formal introduction of a third person into this relationship
will be considered and agreed to by both DOM and sub.
another Dom is introduced into the relationship then said Dom
will read and to obey in its entirety this contract. If
the Dom breaches contract in any way, the DOM herein signed
above,will be held responsible.
another sub is introduced into the relationship then said sub
will read and to obey in its entirety this contract. If
the sub breaches contract in any way, the sub herein signed
above,will be held responsible.
13. The Contract
contract is binding and will be considered as such. Any changes
to be made to this contract at a later date will be agreed on
by both DOM and sub. A new draft of the contract will be drawn
up and the old contract will be destroyed at that time.
signing below both DOM and sub agree that they have read and
understood this contract in its entirety. They also agree
that this contract is binding and will be adhered to until such
time as said contract is dissolved.
undersigned is known as the "DOM".
undersigned is known as the "sub".
signing below either a DOM and sub, being brought into the relationship
as a third party agree that they have read and understood this
contract in its entirety. They also agree that this contract
is binding and will be adhered to until such time as said contract
undersigned is known as the 3rd party, and "DOM".
undersigned is known as the 3rd party, and "sub".
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contract provides a framework for consensual BDSM play. By defining
the boundaries of what is and is not to be included in the couples
sex play, overall satisfaction of both partners will be increased.
Additional provisions under this contract may be added in the
Contract Addendum. Two additional forms are used in conjunction
with this contract: The Rules, and The List as described below.
partner will complete the rules form. In it they will describe
all their partner's annoying or bothersome behaviors referred
to as offenses - (Example: forgetting to buy toilet paper).
Each of these offenses has a prescribed amount of punishment
to be administered to the offender by the offended during a
periodic (weekly) play session. The partners must agree to hold
one or two sessions in each play cycle. In a single session
only one partner assumes the dominant role and dispenses punishment
as prescribed by the itemized list. A double session is split
with roles reversed at an agreed upon time or point in the play.
session must be held at least once a week or every ______________.
A refusal to submit at the appointed time will result in an
additional six strokes for the refusor. If a dispute arises
over an offense, it will be negotiated between the couple or
an arbitrator that may be appointed in the Addendum.
attachment 'The Rules' is a list of offenses and the agreed
upon punishment for each offense. Each offense will have a minimum
and maximum number of strokes and a force level associated with
it. The implement used and the actual number of strokes delivered
in the punishment is at the discretion of the spanker. Both
partners will write and maintain their own Rules list that clearly
specifies what is expected of the other partner. An items on
the list must be accepted by the other partner before it becomes
active. Acceptance is indicated by initialing and dating the
List (The Offenses & Punishment List)
each infraction of the Rules occurs, an entry is made on this
form by the owner of the rule. The form may be used in formal
review 'in the office' to set up the session or during the session
as each item is meted out.
undersigned agree to abide by all the above specified terms
for a period of ____________.
ADDENDUM (to be added later)
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my own free will and out of a desire to express my devotion
to my master, i offer myself in submission to my Master for
the period beginning on __________ and ending at noon on_____________.
i consider myself to be sub full-time to Master, during the
time period expressed above, I will devote myself completely
and totally to the pleasure and desires of my Master, without
sub agrees to obey her Master in all respects. her mind, body,
heart and time belong to sub accepts the responsibility
of using her Safeword when necessary, and trusts implicitly
in her Master to respect the use of that Safeword. If a condition
arises in which the slave needs to use the Safeword or gesture,
her Master will assess the situation, and determine an appropriate
course of action.
sub shall keep her body available for the use of her Master
at all times. In addition, the sub agrees that her Master possesses
the right to determine whether others can use her body and what
use they may put it to. The Master will discuss all such instances
in advance with the sub, to be certain that such play with others
will not violate any established limits. The sub shall demonstrate
her acceptance of her role of service and availability at all
times while at home and at other times and places specified
by her Master. The sub acknowledges that her Master may use
her body or mind in any manner He wishes within the parameters
sub will answer any questions put to her honestly and directly,
and will volunteer any information her Master should know about
her physical or emotional condition. While her Master expects
His sub to speak honestly and forth rightly about anything that
bothers her, she is not to interpret that as permission to whine
or complain. She will phrase her concerns politely and respectfully,
and then gracefully accept her Master's judgment in these matters
without further complaint.
sub will always speak of her Master in terms of respect. She
will address him at all times as either "Master" or "Sir" (see
Public Rules of Conduct).
Master may give the sub "free periods" in His presence during
which the sub may express herself openly and freely. There will
be no punishments applied during "free periods." It is understood,
however, that the sub will continue to address her Master with
respect at all times and that deviations from the rule are subject
to punishment at a later time.
sub agrees that punishment may be assessed for any infraction
of the letter or spirit of the contract, and will accept the
correction gratefully. The form and extent of the punishment
shall be at the Master's discretion, and the Master shall make
it clear to the sub that She is being punished when punishment
occurs. The Master shall endeavor not inflict physical harm
upon the sub that might require the attention of anyone outside
the relationship. Master and sub agree that in extremes either
may activate a free period by using the Safeword The free period
will continue until both parties agree that the problem(s) concerned
sub is permitted to engage in any and all activities not actively
forbidden by the contract or by later edict of the Master. All
rights and privileges not otherwise noted in this contract belong
to the Master, and He may exercise them as He chooses.
Rules of Conduct
days when her Master is at work, the sub will greet Him wearing
her collar and wrist restraints. On days when the Master is
home, the slave will wear whatever is deemed appropriate by
her Master. When in the same room as her Master, the sub will
ask permission before leaving the room, explain where She is
going, and why. When speaking to her Master or being spoken
to by Him, the sub will assume a demeanor of alert attention
and will meet her Master's eyes directly, unless instructed
to do otherwise.
Rules of Conduct
sub will conduct herself at all times in such a manner as to
not call attention to Master and sub. She will call her Master
by His name only if the use of "Master" is inappropriate. The
sub will defer to her Master in public. The sub may dress herself,
but must seek approval of any clothing She wishes to wear in
public. Work Rules of Conduct
part of the agreement is intended to interfere with the sub's
career. The Master wishes the sub to work hard and honestly,
in general to conduct herself in a manner calculated to bring
honor and respect to them both. During periods of work, the
sub is permitted to schedule appointments, to dress in a manner
appropriate to work, and to leave the house when necessary.
During periods of work, the sub may answer the telephone and
discuss business without the expressed permission of her Master.
With my signature below, I agree to accept and obey all preceding
rules as well as any rules my Master may choose to issue at
a later date.
following word is to be used as a Safeword only to halt all
sub __________________ date
accept My sub's desire to serve Me more fully, and take responsibility
for her training, discipline and protection.
Master _________________ date