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Age Play - A form of role playing to satisfy a fixation/fetish surrounding age play.
Algolagnia - A synonym for Sadomasochism.( See below)
Anal Play - Any play concerning the anus/ rectum.
Anal Training - Preparing the anus for anal play.
Anilingus - Anal oral sex. ( See safety tips )
Asphyxiation - Restricting the air/ blood flow by choking to elevate the sensation of orgasm. ( Please See saftey tips)
BDSM - An acronym for Bondage , Discipline/Domination, submission/Sadism, Masochism. (Depending on who you are talking to and how they use it.)
B&D - Bondage and Discipline. Refers to the practices of bondage, corporal punishment and D/s role play.
Bondage - Using a form of restraint( cuffs, rope, saran wrap, or whatever else used in your imagination) to restrict the bound parties freedom of movement.
Blood Sports - A generally S/m practice that results in the drawing of blood by use of cane ( to point of breaking skin), branding, and cutting. ( piercing can also be considered a blood sport ( See piercing below).
Bottom - A person who prefers to receive bondage, training, corporal punishment, etc. but is not necessarily committed to they're Dominant / Top.
Bottoming from the Top - A term used when the TOP lets the bottom run the scene for different reasons.
Boundaries - Refers to limits negotiated by both parties prior to a scene or play. Sometimes Dominants push boundaries if the submissive is still receptive at the boundary point.
Branding - Burning of the skin to produce a scar. Used for ownership generally.
CBT - (Cock and ball torture) - Binding, applying clothes pins, clamps, weights, penis/ball restraints( gates of hell, etc.) to the male genitals.
Catharsis - The purging of emotions/ stress through a scene. ( Might/Might not be intentional)
Collar - (2 definitions) 1. A symbol of ownership/surrender to a specific Dominant to display the transition of a Dominant and submissive's relationship to a higher level. (Many see the collar as a parallel to a vanilla wedding ring.) b. Also used to signify rank in D/s "Houses" (See house below). 2. A form of bondage equipment worn around the neck for bondage play.
Consensual - Activities or behavior agreed to by those involved prior to a scene/play.
Cutting - Slicing the skin to make a design, for corporal punishment or for scene play( See blood sports)
Dental Dam - A latex barrier used for oral sex to prevent the transmission of STD's or HIV. (Note: many I have met or known have had no clue to what Dental Dam is let alone used it. It is about a similar sensation to condoms. Most sex toy stores that carry large varieties of condoms also carry Dental Dam)
Discipline - A form of punishment or a form of training of a submissive/slave. Most forms of B&D or S&M can be used as a discipline tool. It all depends on you!
Dominant - The person given the control in a agreed to Power exchange relationship.
Edgeplay - Role play that is at or near the edge of one of the parties limits. Also Refers to activities that have a higher than normal risk to either parties. Not considered something to goof around with. (What is one persons limit is also another persons reward though, so this is more a term to be applied to your own ideals.)
Edgeplayer - One that constantly pushes or hits limits.
Enemas - The instrument used for flushing the lower intestine to prepare one for anal play, or because they just like it. (If you are into such Please only do with someone that is knowledgeable in such play.)
Fetish - An object or bodily part whose real or fantasized presence is psychologically desired and or necessary for sexual gratification.
Fisting - Insertion of the entire hand into the vagina or anus.
Gag - Devices inserted in or over the mouth to muffle sound. ( Effective tool to keep mouthy subbies quiet)
Golden Shower - Urination on or in the other party. Also used as a humiliation technique.
Gorean or Gor - Term from a series of books by John Norman. Gor's ( the imaginary planet in these books)slave culture has acquired a lot of attention and followers that implement the fiction into reality of they're every day lives.
Humiliation -
Infantilism - Role play involving infant type behavior ( diaper wearing, bibs , etc.)
Isolation - A technique of sensory deprivation to render one to feel as though they were left alone.
Kajira - Gorean female pleasure/sex slave.
Lifestyler - One who lives a lifestyle supporting ones BDSM ideals and desires.
Limit - The boundary set by both the parties ( Top/ Bottoms , Dom/sub/slave) during negotiations that set the terms of play.
Masochism - Erotic enjoyment of pain, and humiliation. ( Degrees vary on ones tolerance or personal definition of. Used usually to describe one into heavier pain I.E.: intense floggings, nipple weight torture, etc.)
Master - A title given to one who has conquered or Mastered the submissive. Usually used as a tribute or loving endearment to the Dominant of a submissive. Also been used as a term of possession. ( i.e.: "He is My Master.")
Mental Bondage - Bound by command instead of physical bindings.
Mummification - Full body bondage, by almost or completely wrapping one in a manner to prohibit movement with saran wrap, spandex, elastic, gauze etc.
Negotiation - Conferring with another so as to arrive at the settlement or compromise of some matter.
Nipple Torture - Stimulation play of the nipples for corporal or erotic pleasure.
Nonconsensual - Anything done with out consent by either party.
Novice - A person with interest but lacking actual experience. ( AKA Newbie)
Over-The-Knee ( OTK ) - The classic spanking position.
Pansexual - Exhibiting or implying many forms of sexual expression
Piercing - To pierce a part of the body to be accompanied by jewelry.
Play piercing - To insert needles into the skin as a part of a scene, many parts may be pierced at the same time, tied together by string and then removed at the end of a scene. Play piercings are often allowed to heal.
Play - Participating in a scene or activity of BDSM, or D/s.
Pony Training / Play - Turning a boy/ girl into a "pony" to be ridden, used to pull carts / carriages, or to perform as a well trained horse in obedience. The dress of a Pony boy/girl can include a horse hair tail attached to a butt plug, a bit gag, a bridle and reins. Clothing is at the "Pony" Owners discretion, though usually heels are added to enhance the clicking sound of hoofs.
Position Training - To train a submissive to assume any given position by command or event.
Pushing Limits - The careful process of expanding ones limits and or Play that comes close to the intolerable.
Role Play - The elaboration of ones sexual desire by creating a fantasy structure for them. (I.E.: kidnapping scene, enacting different personas, etc.
S.A.M - A acronym for a Smart Ass Masochist. ( SAMs are known to Top from the Bottom)
S&M (Sadomasochism) - The progressed practices involving the consensual use of pain, humiliation and power exchange for pleasure.
Sadist - ( honorable) One who derives pleasure from giving pain, humiliation, or domination to those desiring of it with the respect of limits and safewords.
Safe Word - A word or phrase or action given by the submissive/ bottom to stop or reduce the intensity of a scene or play.
Scat - A slang term for scatophilia, taking pleasure in playing with and sometimes eating feces.
Scene - A session of play
Sensory Deprivation - Restricting ones senses for the purpose and enhancement of a scene/ play.
Slave - (Often used interchangeably with submissive) though considered more one that wants total control.
Submissive - A person that gives up total control of her/his body and behavior for the benefit of not only her Dominant but for her/his own growth.
Suspension - A set of techniques for suspending a submissive using ropes, webbing or chain so that no part of the body touches the floor. This is a highly specialized technique and great care must be used to prevent damage.
Switch (Switchable) - A person who enjoys both the dominant and submissive roles. A switch may be dominant to one person and submissive with another or vice versus. Top - a person in the Dominant role.
Topping from the bottom - (Commonly referred when speaking of SAMs) when the bottom becomes the aggressor, with or without consent from the Top.
Tit Torture (TT) - Play involving the breasts.
Training (term generally used for D/s) - 1. The act of guidance for a "Newbie" to learn the preferred art of submission by a Dominant or Mentor. All Dominants or Mentors have they're own preferences for training, as there are many forms of training. 2. To learn the proper use of toys and body part adaptation for toys. For mutual satisfaction. ( I.e.: anal training, position training,etc.)
Vanilla - Not in the BDSM & D/s scene. People considered "Normal" by societies standards. Also can describe function settings. ( munches at a public place etc. )
Verbal Humiliation - The use of verbalizations to excite or humble ones partner. Good when used in a positive manner For the submissive. ( If they like being called a whore or a slut etc.)
Water Sports - Play involving urine or enemas.
Worship - To lavish attention on a part of the body (of another usually) or a role playing attitude toward a Dominant.
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